divorce, and remarriage worked out. If they don’t, they’ll find out within the first few months in the parish why it’s so important.” One of the early concerns is when to advise separation. In cases of abuse (see chapter 5), nearly everybody urges separation. No one should be required to live with fear of injury. Other situations also point toward separation. Some spouses participate in illegal activities, and remaining in the same household could subject a mate to legal implications or criminal